Tuesday, December 14, 2021

Let’s talk about “She Who Shall Not Be Named.”

 

Like many others, I hadn’t heard of JKR when her first book hit the shelves of bookstores here in the U.S. In fact, at this point, I can’t tell you how that first book entered my reading list (and for the sake of this post, it really doesn’t matter), but once it did, my family and I were hooked. We were those people that were at the bookstore at midnight for the book releases, and we usually read the whole night through. We bought multiple copies of the books so that we could all read at the same time. We were just as passionate when the movies came out, and we bought them too when they became available. To put it plainly, I loved the books and the world they represented… Not anymore.

So, what happened? JKR happened. Now, I respect everyone’s right to have and voice their opinion. I also believe that freedom of speech does not equate to freedom from consequence. JKR has shown herself to be transphobic through multiple statements made over several years. I will not post the links to her statements here; I refuse to pollute my blog with her vitriol.

Let us talk about a few truths about being transgender in the United States. Research done by the Williams Institute finds that trans people (over 16) are four times more likely than cisgender people to be victimized (Williams Institute, 2021). The rates of violence and murder directed against the transgender community are equally as high, only the reported crimes. There are many more incidents where the victim is not identified as being transgender by the family. How about the other side of the equation? I searched the FBI’s sexual assault database looking for instances of a transgender person as the perpetrator of sexual assault. I couldn’t find any mention in the reports for the last five years reported. When I looked at RAINN’s (a sexual violence hotline) data, none of their statistics indicated gender identity as a characteristic of a perpetrator (RAINN, 2021). Now, I am not so naïve as to think that trans people do not commit crimes, even sexual assault; I am saying that you are more likely to get hit by lightning than to be assaulted by a transgender person.

Why did I say I would be talking about She Who Will Not Be Named when all I’ve done is talk about books and statistics? Well, it has to do with representation and the impact of words. Compared to her, my voice is quiet, barely a whisper. I cannot be heard above the crowd. Even all the voices of the transgender men and women that are speaking up, wanting to be heard and seen, cannot compete with the magnitude of her voice, and in the world, we live in today, those loud voices are paid attention to. So, her words negatively impact the lives of people that just want to live their own life to the fullest. Her words strip away the joy that we felt and reading the stories and enjoying those worlds she created. Her words can kill people, maybe not directly, by validating negative stereotypes about the transgender population. To separate the art from the artist, Picasso is a great example. He was a terrible human being, but his art stands out. The thing is, Picasso is not around to further tarnish his legacy by saying or doing something that we find objectionable; JKR is.

So, I will not support anything having to do with her. I’m not going to read the books I own; I will not watch the movies. I am going to speak up when she is brought into the conversation. Anything that uses the world she created, I will not support. I know that that will not make the slightest difference to her; she already has my money. Nor am I stupid enough to believe that all of the major corporations that use that world to make money are suddenly going to stop because a trans woman from Colorado is upset. I do this for me. I do this for the teenager struggling with who they are and are bombarded with the negativity she spews. I do this for the little kid that is just exploring their identity. At least one voice out in the world that objects and will speak out.

 

Hugs and Kisses…

Vicki

 

References

RAINN. (2021, December 14). Perpetrators of Sexual Violence: Statistics. Retrieved from RAINN: https://www.rainn.org/statistics/perpetrators-sexual-violence

Williams Institute. (2021, March 23). Press Releases. Retrieved from UCLA School of Law: Williams Institute: https://williamsinstitute.law.ucla.edu/press/ncvs-trans-press-release/

 

 

Saturday, December 11, 2021

I'm still here

 WOW!! I just realized that it's been a year since my last post. I can't honestly claim that I've been too busy. I haven't. What I have been doing is existing. Way back when, when I first started my transition, I read somewhere that transitioning is not a cure-all. That transitioning only fixes one aspect. If you were depressed before, you will still be depressed after. I honestly thought that I understood that, and at some level I did, but the reality of it hits hard. Now, let me just interject here, I am not saying that I regret my surgery, I do not, because it does address one aspect.

I am not going to have this be a long post. I just want to let y'all know that I'm still here. Look for more from me soon.


Hugs and kisses...

Vicki